Breakups hurt. It doesn’t matter whether you were together for five months or fifteen years—when a relationship ends, it can feel like the ground disappears from under you.

Even when things feel broken beyond repair, talking about divorce can feel like the final blow. But when you approach it with honesty, care, and clarity, the conversation doesn’t have to be a war. In fact, it might be the first step in helping both of you move toward a healthier, more peaceful future.

If you’re going through a divorce or separation and kids are involved, one of your biggest concerns is probably custody. You’re not alone—figuring out who gets the kids when, and how to keep things fair and peaceful, is one of the most emotional parts of the process.